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]]> By: Clairese http://www.franklincovey.com/blog/strengthening-families.html/comment-page-1#comment-358 Clairese Fri, 31 Jul 2009 23:29:51 +0000 http://www.franklincovey.com/blog/?p=335#comment-358 Mr. Covey, I requested your contact on Facebook and I appreciate your willingness to reach out to others thru this network. In 1991, our family faced it's most stressful challenge. On top of the world in Anchorage Alaska, my husband was permanently disabled in a car accident by a motorist that ran a red light and was without insurance. Unable to work for 6 months was a huge strain for our family as he tried to go back to work and could not. We lost our 5 bedroom home, our vehicles, our credit, but not each other! Almost lost my husband as he was very angry and suicidal and even threatened us one Sunday, but our son called the police and my huband was Baker Acted for the weekend. He chose to go inpatient for two weeks and we all huddled to grow stronger and learn more about each other and the right ways to cope. We have been doing family meetings since 1985 and cannot say enough positive things about the process. In 1993, we sold all we had and drove an old motorhome to Florida to be with my parents. No job, home, no car - no benefits, no income except my unemployment. Our family learned to be resilient. We learned how strong we were and what we could do, singularly and as a family. As our sons are all adults now, and life has not been easy for any of us, always a challenge and a lot of hard work, I am surprised at how poorly my sons treat each other and sometimes treat me. They are all still resilient and on their way thru life with families of their own now...but I seem to be feeling hurt a lot lately in watching how they treat each other as they experience tough times. They don't help each other, even though they can. They are not as close as I thought they would be considering. Often I believe perhaps they are pulling away from us and each other to prove to themselves they can stand on their own, as if that is a badge they need to wear. I read and see families in strife as a result of these harsher times and I see that there seems to be fewer coping skills and few role models. I never stop trying and being there for my sons, even when they argue as adults. There don't seem to be many parenting books for parents of adults...I still make mistakes in NOT knowing what to say and do. So please keep up the grand work of sharing all that you know and learn with us. Blessings, Clairese in Florida Mr. Covey,

I requested your contact on Facebook and I appreciate your willingness to reach out to others thru this network.

In 1991, our family faced it’s most stressful challenge. On top of the world in Anchorage Alaska, my husband was permanently disabled in a car accident by a motorist that ran a red light and was without insurance. Unable to work for 6 months was a huge strain for our family as he tried to go back to work and could not. We lost our 5 bedroom home, our vehicles, our credit, but not each other! Almost lost my husband as he was very angry and suicidal and even threatened us one Sunday, but our son called the police and my huband was Baker Acted for the weekend. He chose to go inpatient for two weeks and we all huddled to grow stronger and learn more about each other and the right ways to cope. We have been doing family meetings since 1985 and cannot say enough positive things about the process.
In 1993, we sold all we had and drove an old motorhome to Florida to be with my parents. No job, home, no car – no benefits, no income except my unemployment. Our family learned to be resilient. We learned how strong we were and what we could do, singularly and as a family.
As our sons are all adults now, and life has not been easy for any of us, always a challenge and a lot of hard work, I am surprised at how poorly my sons treat each other and sometimes treat me. They are all still resilient and on their way thru life with families of their own now…but I seem to be feeling hurt a lot lately in watching how they treat each other as they experience tough times. They don’t help each other, even though they can. They are not as close as I thought they would be considering. Often I believe perhaps they are pulling away from us and each other to prove to themselves they can stand on their own, as if that is a badge they need to wear.
I read and see families in strife as a result of these harsher times and I see that there seems to be fewer coping skills and few role models. I never stop trying and being there for my sons, even when they argue as adults. There don’t seem to be many parenting books for parents of adults…I still make mistakes in NOT knowing what to say and do.
So please keep up the grand work of sharing all that you know and learn with us.
Blessings, Clairese in Florida

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